Why Use a Life Coach?

Welcome to my website, and congratulations—if you are looking for a life coach, you must be wanting some expansion in your life!

How can a life coach help? Just as an athlete who wants to be excellent in a sport uses a sports coach, someone who wants to excel in life uses a life coach. If things are already good, you can take things to a higher level—and a coach can support you in that.

If you are serious about changing your life, go over the website, especially the Services tab, and contact me to set up an appointment for a free introductory session.

 


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Food for Thought…

Sometimes there are things that people just need to know… and I think this is one of them.

Do you KNOW what you are eating?

We have increasingly become a culture of instant gratification. More and more people seem to believe that they do not have enough expertise, and we tend to look to others to solve our problems— our health, our education, our taxes— you name it, there’s somebody out there more expert than we are, and we’d just like them to take of it for us, thank you.

BUT… it’s important to wake up and realize that if we want to be healthy, wealthy and wise… it may be a dirty job but WE have to do it… we cannot keep thinking that somebody else “out there” is going to be taking care of things for us. So here’s to becoming empowered and making intelligent choices. And here’s to the power of even ONE person in making a change. Giant oaks come from little acorns— it takes just one small seed to make a great oak tree!

Is real food too much to ask for? Are you taking responsibility for your own, and your family’s, well-being? You can start by becoming more aware, becoming more educated, and allowing yourself to grow and expand.

Shift Happens…

 Shift Happens...There is always a choice in how we look at things…

How do you look at your life? Do you see it as a life where s _ _ t happens, or do you see a life where SHIFT HAPPENS?

A shift is when you suddenly see or sense something differently than you have in the past…and frequently this happens accidentally. If this has ever happened to you, you know that looking at things differently causes different results. For example, crying and laughing can sound very similar—if you saw an event where people seemed to be crying, how you would act would be very different from how you would act if the people seemed to be laughing.

If you are not happy with what is going on in your life right now… consider practicing being more aware of your feelings, then your thoughts—then experiment with shifting your thoughts to something that feels better, or to a different aspect of the circumstance you are examining. When you find your mind being judgmental or critical, ask yourself if you can find something positive in the situation, circumstance or person. Practice looking for what you like, and when you find yourself thinking about what you don’t like… just observe that and let it go.

Some people believe that one cannot change… that we are “set” and that change is not possible. I don’t agree. I do believe that in order to change, however, I need to change the way I think, and that will change the way I act. When I choose a different way to think and act, I get different results than I got before.

My choice it to always think that SHIFT HAPPENS, and that I can make a shift. A Course In Miracles says that a miracle is a shift in perception. I like looking for miracles, and the better I get at looking for them, the more I find!


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TeaKettle1 How To Boil Water—Or What Can a Tea Kettle Teach About Life?

My teacher, a trusty tea kettle.

I recently had an experience which demonstrated how differently people can perceive things. I was thinking about what my son might need for Christmas, and I thought maybe he still needed a good tea kettle. My own past experience with tea kettles was that they never seemed to last… until my latest tea kettle—which I have had for at least eight years, maybe even 10 or 11 years.

I love my tea kettle. It still looks good. It’s not dented. It’s sturdy, has a handsome brushed stainless steel finish, and is easy to clean. The handle is static, so it does not flop down like handles on kettles I have had in the past. The handle does not get too hot to pick up without a pot holder. The whistle works perfectly. The lid is snug. The open/close mechanism works beautifully—I simply hold the handle and move the thumb on that hand back and forth to push or pull the spout open or closed. The kettle does not drip when I pour. It holds a good amount of water. You get the idea—it’s a great tea kettle.

So I researched tea kettles online and found several and read the reviews, including the reviews for the exact kettle I own. My kettle had 15 reviews on the Amazon website—6 of which gave this product 5 stars, and 7 which gave it one star only! The people who didn’t like it complained that the handle got too hot, that the whistle was too loud, that it was hard to fill, and that it was poorly designed.

I thought that perhaps some coaching was in order…

  • What in your life do you “overfill”? When filling your tea kettle, do not fill it too full—best to keep the water level below the spout. This will prevent the water from boiling out through the spout.
  • What in your life might you be using the wrong size for? Use the right size burner—best if the circumference of the burner is smaller than the circumference of the tea kettle. This will ensure that the heat is under the kettle, rather than going up the sides.
  • Where in your life do you use “too much flame”? If using a gas stove, make sure the flame does not extend beyond the edge of the kettle. This will prevent overheating of the spout and handle.
  • In what area of your life would a snug fit be appropriate? Make sure the lid is snuggly fitted down on the kettle—this will make sure the air does not escape through the lid area, preventing the whistle from working.
  • Where in your life are you leaving gaps that prevent things from working correctly? Make sure the whistle is pushed securely down on the spout so air will go through the whistle, not through gaps between the whistle and the spout.
  • Are there things in your life you can adjust or do differently depending on circumstances, or do you get stuck doing things the way you have always done them? To fill the kettle, it is not necessary to open the lid—it’s quite simple to just fill the kettle right through the spout. If you do take the lid off, there should be no problem having the water from the faucet go into the hole where the lid was—but if necessary, you can tip the kettle just a little to the side.
  • Are you practicing gratitude in your life? When you are grateful for what you already have, you have room to receive more. Be grateful for a loud whistle… the whistle is to alert you to take the kettle off the stove, so you don’t burn or overheat the kettle! If you are doing things in the kitchen while the kettle is heating up—you do not need to wait for a full boil—you will hear a change in sound before the whistle goes off, and see steam beginning to escape from the center of the whistle. This is just before the full boil—and many advise it’s best to use the water just before it comes to a boil.
  • What in your life might you take better care of and benefit from more ease and grace? I discovered just recently (duh) that if I move my kettle off the stove and put it on a trivet on my counter when I am not using it, I don’t have to clean it very often, and it looks much nicer!

As my late husband used to say… “When all else fails, read the destructions!”

Go Do It! — the Two-Letter Word Song

Many years ago I heard a song which I found amusing, catchy, and true… but I did not write it down at the time. I thought about it and tried to remember it and have tried to look it up on the internet several times, to no avail. I cannot remember the name of the singer who sang it, although I do remember where I heard it. It was at a concert at the Somerville Theater, in Somerville, Massachusetts. The headliner was Don White, a wonderful local comic singer/songwriter. This was not Don’s song, though—it was sung by the guy who was his warm-up act… whose name I cannot remember.

Well, not being able to find the song, I went about the task to put it together again, myself. However, I don’t have a tune for it. If this song looks familiar to you, and you know whose song the original is, please share! If you have your own tune that you can put together with my words, please share.

This simple song is full of wisdom. Here it is—please leave your comments!

The Two-Letter Word Song, or “Go Do It!”

Is it go, or is it no?
Is it no, or is it go?
If it is to be,
It is up to me.
So go do it!

Enough said.


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The Shortest Distance Between Two Points

Everybody knows that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line. Seems kind of obvious… but how often do we forget this simple “law”? For me, this has often been a challenge.

Does this ever happen to you? It’s time to clean up. OK, gotta wash the dishes… but what are those papers over there on the table? Better move them first. I’ll put them in the basket of stuff that needs to be filed. Oh oh, forgot to brush my teeth. Better do that. OK… so what was I doing? Ah, yes… I was washing the dishes. Right, I’ll go back to do that. I see another paper in the wrong place… oh—I remember now… I left those other papers in the bathroom when I brushed my teeth. Better collect those and put them where they belong… and so on and so on. I can start a small project and make it a big one because in putting something away I can decide that entire closet needs to be reordered, which means removing everything from it… and once that is done, I have to go through it all and decide on whether to keep it and where the right place to put it is—which may mean I have to reorder another closet.

Another great example of getting side-tracked is email, or the telephone. You sit down with the intention of getting to work on something, then notice that you have email or voice mail, and then have to check it. Once you’ve checked it, you have to respond. If you respond to email, there may be some links in there that will take you to the internet and then you’ll be falling into that rabbit hole.

The worst place for this kind of distraction is when we are distracted from what our life goals are. If you decide you want to be writer, but then realize you need a job, and you get a job with a lot of responsibility, and then feel too busy to write, it’s going to be difficult to achieve that goal. So you need to think about ways that will help you go in as straight a line as possible to your goal–if you are really serious about your goal. This is going to mean that you will have to devote some time to it on a regular basis… daily, weekly, monthly. You may need to use some imagination or ingenuity to think of ways to work on your goals. Can you learn to be a better delegator? Have you learned to stop when something is “good enough”? Are there things you can read, write, or listen to as you are  commuting to and from your job? Is there something you can do during your lunch break? Is there a place and/or a time that you can set aside at home, after the kids are in bed (if you have kids), or even early in the morning? There is very little chance of achieving something without putting in consistent (and persistent) action.

Even if you do not have 8 hours a day to devote on your ultimate goal… do you have one or two? Do you have 30 minutes? What do you have? What can you put into place so that you are thinking in terms of that straight line—of getting from point A to point B? What distractions can you eliminate? What time can you carve out for your goals?


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The Reason You Are Not Happy

There’s some kind of dissatisfaction in your life. You vaguely know what it is, but you’re having trouble putting your finger on it. Your job doesn’t seem to fit you in some way. You’re not appreciated by the people you work with, or maybe your own partner or your family. Everybody else seems to be doing better than you are. You’re not smart enough, or rich enough, or good looking enough, or skinny enough, or funny enough, or interesting enough. There’s something not enough.

The reason that there is something missing is because you are hiding something from yourself… you are avoiding something. You are looking for some reason, some excuse, something, or someone to blame for not having what you really want. And the truth is, that you are to blame. And the truth is, you don’t want to see that.

Are you to blame, though? Here’s the way I see it. We all have two selves… we have our self and our Self. Our little self and our big Self. Our little self is that part of us looking for the problems, the excuses, the reasons why we can’t do or have something. Our little self is comparing us with others, and finding either ourselves, or others, lacking. Our little self is criticizing and judging. Our little self tells us we are different, better than, worse than. Our little self wants to shrink into a corner or wants to show them. Our little self is always looking for justification to be angry, upset, and selfish. Our little self does not want to share. Our little self thinks it has to protect us from all the bad stuff and bad people out there.

Our big Self does not even see our little self. Our big Self has a big heart and feels loving and connected to others. Our big Self wants to help and be useful and do something that has a positive impact on others and on the world. This all comes naturally, spontaneously, without effort… it just comes.

Your little self is your ego self. Your big Self is your Spirit Self. So, who is to blame for your unhappiness or dissatisfaction? The little self part of you is to blame, but it just doesn’t know any better.

Here’s what you need to do. You need to watch, to observe. You need to pay attention. When you do that, you will begin to recognize the little self reacting to the world. That’s you’re chance to stand back, step back, out of your little self. Step into the background, and just watch. Watch the play. Watch the drama. Be curious about it. Step out of the investment in it and just observe it. Don’t judge it, or criticize it. (If you do that, you’re back into your little self again!) Watch the play unfold with interest. “Oh, isn’t that interesting… look at where my thoughts are going now… look at how I’m responding now.”

Now be amused. Be forgiving. Don’t take your little self seriously. “That’s just that little self part of me again… always thinking it’s got the answers, that it’s right, that it’s in charge. Ha!” Let your big Self come in and do its thing… be loving, be forgiving, be compassionate, be open, be expanding, be accepting. Whenever you start to notice that very loud little self voice… see if you can be still and listen for the quieter Spirit Self voice, and go with what that voice is telling you.

If you practice listening, if you practice quiet, if you practice gratitude, if you practice tuning into your natural, big, expanding Self, your little self will gradually diminish. Don’t try to scold your little self, or punish it. Learn to have as much compassion for your little self as you are learning to have for others. Be kind to yourself, and be kind to others. You will gradually find yourself more contented, more accepting, and yes, more happy. There is no instant pill. It’s a process. Everything in your life will change, though, once you change the way you think about things.

Personal life coaching can help you become more aware, can help you focus on solutions instead of on problems, can help you set goals, can help you stay accountable to your Self.


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I’ll See It When I Believe It

The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen. - Frank Lloyd Wright

Who among us does not want a fulfilled life, a life of ease and grace and abundance? How can we have such a life? What do we have to do? What has to happen to make such a life possible?

My own opinion is that we need to start with belief, or faith. Once we have faith, we realize there is nothing we need to be or do or have, other than allowing ourselves to grow. Once we believe that something is possible, everything else starts to fall into place. Once we have faith that we already are what we need to be, accept our circumstances, and take responsibility for ourselves, we begin to take action and grow into being our authentic and unlimited selves.

Become aware of what you believe, then choose whether you want to continue to believe it. Is the belief serving you? What belief would serve you better? Are your beliefs focusing on what you don’t want, or are they focusing on what you do want? For example, do you believe there is something about you that “is not good enough” because you constantly compare yourself to others? Try focusing on your strengths and your uniqueness, without comparing yourself to someone else. Perhaps you would like to lose weight–instead of focusing on the “problem” of too much weight, start visualizing yourself as your thin self–and start focusing on the solution. You cannot create what you want by focusing on what you do not want. As you begin to develop more constructive beliefs you will find that your life will become easier. You do not necessarily need to know the solution–when you begin to image and visualize what you want, you will begin to take action and the “how” or the solution will gradually unfold. It’s like driving a car on a windy road–you know your destination, but you may not be familiar with the road, and you respond to the curves in the road as necessary, without having to know ahead of time what each curve will bring. Believe in your ability to negotiate life’s curves the same way, one challenge at a time.

As you practice positive beliefs, you develop faith. Faith that things are OK, that you are OK, that life is OK, and as you practice more you begin to know that things are great, that you are great, that life is great. Move from belief to faith to knowing. Grow into the state or habit of mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing and you will grow into faith, then let the faith become knowing. It does not matter what person or thing you have faith in, or what you call it–self, higher power, God, etc.–it’s really all the same.

Expose yourself to, and align yourself with, ideas and people with strong positive beliefs. Read, listen, and discuss. You’ll be amazed at how you will grow! Consider using a personal life coach to help you focus, clarify and align yourself to your values and to take appropriate action to move your life forward.

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. - Anatole France


Susan Wood is a Certified Life Coach working and living in Morro Bay, California. She usually coaches by telephone and serves clients across the country. She will happily provide a free session for anyone wanting to explore what coaching with her is about. You can find out more at http://www.susanwoodlifecoach.com or by calling Susan at 805-771-9706.


Growing Healthy, Healthy Growing

I used to think that being healthy had to do with my body–being physically healthy. I thought that taking good care of my body would make me a healthy person. I have come to realize, however, that health has to do with more than just physical health. Health includes four important aspects: emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual. If I neglect any one of these areas, I cannot truly be healthy. These aspects are interconnected–an imbalance in one area will affect the other areas. To really be healthy, I need to pay attention to all four aspects.

Here are a few suggestions for investing in a healthier you, in each area of your life. Please don’t get overwhelmed, however. Every journey is begun with one step. You don’t have to do everything all at once. What I would suggest is that you pick one area you think you’d like to start with, and pick one thing you’d like to work on. Then work on it for a month. Be as consistent as possible, but don’t set unrealistic goals. Gradually add new things to try in each area. Being healthy has a lot to do with growth, and allowing growth. Growth is part of change, and change and growth is what all of life is about. Everything is always growing and changing and evolving, so when we allow ourselves to grow and change and evolve we are in alignment with life.

Emotional

We are complex organisms with a delicate balance of hormones and chemicals that keep us functioning. We have things like adrenalin, endorphins, serotonin, insulin, cortisol, and many more–I’m sure you’ve heard of all these things even if you don’t understand exactly what they do. But the fact is that when we are emotionally stressed, our bodies’ delicate chemical relationships are thrown out of balance and this begins the process of dis-ease. Scientific study has shown that our emotions have a very real affect on our physical health.

Here are a few things you can work on in this area:

  • Become aware of your feelings! You may think you already are, but if you pay close attention you’ll begin to see that you frequently do not acknowledge having feelings–you may cover them up with an addiction (food, TV, smoking, alcohol, sex, etc.), you may just suppress them (they’re still in there and they’re doing damage), or you may express them (crying, losing your temper, raging, etc). None of these coping mechanisms releases us from the incremental damage of holding negative energy inside our bodies. The best way to deal with feelings is to acknowledge them, allow them, and make a conscious decision to let them go–to let the energy from our feelings flow through us, rather than leaving it stuck inside. Try practicing becoming aware of your feelings throughout the day. When you become aware of an uncomfortable feeling, ask yourself if you can just allow the feeling to be there (after all, it’s just a feeling, and it’s not permanent). Then ask yourself if it would be OK to increase your acceptance of the feeling, just for now. Could you increase your acceptance even more–and even more? Rate your acceptance of the feeling (rate your acceptance of it, not the feeling itself)–let’s say from 0 to 10 (10 being the most accepting), and see if you can ask yourself if it’s OK to increase your acceptance until you feel that your acceptance has reached 10, or at least until it has moved up significantly. Doing this little exercise will greatly increase your awareness of your feeling, and you will find that they “pass through you” much more quickly so that you can move on to feeling freer and less limited. There are many ways to learn to release feelings– the Sedona Method , EFT, or the Healing Codes are just three that I know of.
  • Learn to stay in the present. This means stop looking back with regret and forward with worry! Appreciate this moment right now and do what you can now rather than getting bogged down in a pity party or in being a worry wart. You cannot fix past mistakes, and you cannot deal now with things that have not happened yet. The more you learn to stay in the present, the less stressed you will be. My favorite book about being present is “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. Tolle teaches you to “be the witness”–to stand back and observe yourself when you find yourself stressing over past or future events. When you do this, you bring yourself into the present which is the only place where you can really make choices.
  • Practice gratitude! This can be very powerful–there is always something to be grateful for, but so frequently we allow our minds to spin into patterns we have repeated over and over again. You can take a few moments every day, or throughout your day, to ask yourself the simple question, “What can I feel grateful for right now?” Think of some one, some thing, some place you love, and let that feeling permeate for a few moments.
  • Focus on what is working and what do you want. Stop focusing on what is not working and what you do not want. Our thoughts create our reality and what we focus on expands. If we spend time thinking of all the things that may not be right in our “reality,” we simply increase the power of that reality. When we focus on what we do want and what does work and what we can do, we create a far better reality for ourselves–one that has more possibilities, fewer limitations.
  • Forgive. Forgive yourself, forgive others. Whatever you think you or they did wrong–was just a mistake. Don’t take things personally. When someone else is gruff, rough, unpleasant, or just plain mean–it has nothing to do with you! It’s their issue, and you don’t need to take it on. Simply forgive yourself or them, have compassion for yourself or them. Empathize and forgive. We are all perfectly imperfect and judging ourselves and others simply makes our lives miserable.
  • These ideas are just the tip of the iceberg, but it’s a start!

Mental

Mental health, as I see it, isn’t emotional health (what I just described), but the health we gain by exercising our minds. I’m not talking about exercising your mind by allowing it to spin you into negative emotions! I’m talking about activities that stimulate your brain cells and strengthen the synapses between brain cells in memory transmission areas. Here are just a few suggestions:

  • Read. Find things you enjoy reading that stimulate your interest or your imagination. Allow yourself to visualize or to engage in an internal discussion with what you are reading about.
  • Have conversations with people who interest you–conversations about ideas, experiences, perceptions, not about the weather or the latest gossip. Allow your mind to be open to new ideas. If someone has new, unfamiliar ideas, allow yourself to hear them rather than going into a mode of fear (or fight or flight).
  • If you’re addicted to TV, see if you can gradually wean yourself from the “boob” tube, or find some programs that have some real educational value. There are many interesting programs about science, nature, history, people, etc. that can stimulate and expand your thinking.
  • Search out new experiences, go to new places, and stay open to the new perspectives you encounter.
  • Do word puzzles, play strategy games, draw, paint, play an instrument, practice a new language.
  • Write in a journal or work with your hands to build or create.

Physical

Are you getting any exercise? Are you flexible and strong? Are you happy with your weight? Do you feel energetic? Recent studies show that physical exercise can increase mental abilities 20% to 30%.

  • Make a plan to be more active. Start small, but be consistent. I decided at the age of 50 that I wanted to age gracefully. I wasn’t extremely unfit, but I was 25 pounds over my ideal weight, was stressed, and was sedentary. I started by walking almost every day. Then I decided to alternate walking and running, about a minute at a time. I started with only about 12 minutes almost every day. I gradually worked it up to 20, then 30, gradually replacing the walking with running. Not everyone can run–but the point is there is something you can do, and it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. Don’t beat yourself up when you forget or neglect to do it–just do it the next day. If you don’t do it for two days, OK, then–do it the next day, etc. Exercise not only improves your muscle to fat ratio, it improves your metabolism, it increases the oxygen in your system, it improves the functioning of your brain, it reduces fatigue, and it creates a chemical environment which causes more feelings of well-being. If you need the motivation of a group, find a yoga class, an aerobics class, a dance class, or find a walking, running, or swimming buddy. Or maybe just go for it alone–you may be surprised to find out you can!
  • What are you eating? You are what you eat. Our bodies and our brains need certain nutrients to maintain physical health. Our bodies will build all of our cells from what we eat. When what we eat is junk, we gradually have bodies that turn to junk. Again, you don’t have to do this all at once. You can gradually add healthy foods to your diet, and gradually drop the not-healthy foods. Consult with a nutritionist or a naturopath to begin a plan of healthy eating or get yourself a book, subscribe to a magazine, or surf the web to get advice on healthy eating.
  • Do you remember to breathe? Breathing brings oxygen into our bodies and brains and allows the fire to burn inside, the fire that metabolizes what we eat and distributes energy everywhere it is needed. Taking a few deep breaths when you are feeling stressed or anxious can calm you down almost immediately. Having a good supply of oxygen clears your brain and energizes your body.

Spiritual

Begin a spiritual practice. This does not have to be a religious practice. You can, but you do not have to go to a church, a temple or a mosque. You do not need to believe anything that does not resonate the truth for you. Allow yourself some daily time to reflect on or practice your spiritual beliefs.

  • Start by just pondering some questions. Ask what is bigger, smarter, more intelligent, more powerful than you are? For some people the answer may be God. For others the answer may be god. For others the answer may be nature, the universe, higher self, higher power, Gaia, mother earth–but when you begin to ask the question, you will begin to get the answer. Once you begin to see answers to the question, you will begin to see yourself as part of the answer. You are a part of what is bigger than you are, you are what is bigger than you are! Start to see the part of you that is your ego-self as the part that is less real than your spirit self. Your ego-self is the part of you that wants to be separate, different, better, or worse than others. Your spirit self is the part of you that is interconnected with everything and everybody else. Begin to honor your spirit self and allow yourself to discover what feels true to that self–examine values like compassion, empathy, generosity, forgiveness, unconditional love. Beginning a spiritual practice can be as simple as beginning to ask the question, “What is true for me?” and see what comes up (like, “what feels truer, having a lot of money or helping somebody?” or “having a particular job, or doing something creative?” etc.) My own personal experience was that I started to develop my spiritual “muscle” by going to 12-step meetings. I gradually allowed myself to shift from being a total atheist to being open to the idea of “higher power.” Once I was able to believe that I am not all powerful, but I am part of something that is, I was able to move forward and grow in my life.
  • Meditate. Meditation comes in many forms. It can just be as simple as just sitting quietly and allowing your mind to wander off, then bring it back to quiet when you notice. Some people meditate by using a mantra–any word or phrase that they repeat silently to help them bring their minds’ attention away from spinning off into projection, worry, or busyness. Others focus on their breath. Others ponder a question. Mediation has been shown to be beneficial to emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health. My favorite meditation “tool” is Holosync audio technology CD’s.

A life coach can help you in any of these areas. Life coaching is about taking action toward your goals and desires, it’s about opening up to new possibilities, it’s about opening up to new insights, it’s about discovering what you value. A life coach will support you through the process of self-discovery and setting and achieving desired outcomes in your life.


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Recognize your strengths and connect to your inner knowingness.

“Life coach–what’s a life coach?” is probably the most frequent response I get when people ask me what I do. The shortest answer is that a life coach supports a person in excelling is his or her life just as a sports coach supports an athlete in excelling in a sport.

Our lives have become increasingly busy and seemingly complicated, and there’s a great tendency to run from one thing to the next on “auto-pilot,” with little time spent on reflection. Running “programs” that no longer serve us, we can forget what is really important and can feel confused about what we need to feel fulfilled in our lives. Many of us have a vague (or not so vague) feeling of discontent–even when there appears to be little that is wanting in our lives.

If you want a beautiful garden, one that brings beauty, joy, and satisfaction–you tend it carefully–planting seeds, pulling weeds, watering and fertilizing, and nurturing. To produce a life of joy and fulfillment, we need to nurture ourselves and our lives in the same way. Hiring a life coach is making a commitment to nurture your life–to grow your life like a beautiful garden–and to reflect on what you want in that garden.

The coaching relationship is an ongoing relationship of mutual respect and trust that brings clarity, commitment, and action. You set the agenda for each coaching session. The coach will ask questions, based on your statements, to help you look forwards rather than backwards. During this process of inquiry the coach facilitates your discovery of values and vision for what you want in your life. The coach helps you open your awareness to new options, focus on what you want, and set goals and intentions. What you focus on expands and your coach helps you keep your attention on your intentions. Part of the coaching process is for you and your coach to agree on actions you are willing to take to move toward your goals. The coach will then follow up with you at your next coaching session.

The coaching process also helps you recognize your strengths, uncover and move through any limiting beliefs, get “unstuck,” and find inspiration, motivation and a deeper connection to your own inner “knowingness.” Every step of the way, the coach is there to cheer your accomplishments and to challenge you to continue to move forward.

With the support of a good life coach, clients take charge of their lives, become accountable, learn to align to what they value, live more consciously, take action, and discover a life purpose. Coaches help clients get positive results and find fulfillment in all areas of their lives–professional, financial, physical, intellectual, relational, and spiritual.

Susan Wood is a Certified Life Coach living in Morro Bay. She usually coaches by telephone and serves clients across the country. She will happily provide a free session for anyone wanting to explore what coaching with her is about. You can find out more at www.susanwoodlifecoach.com or by calling Susan at 805-771-9706.


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How Do You Get From Point A to Point B?

How do get from where you Are to where you want to Be?
People who want to move forward in their lives, achieve more, and live life to the fullest use a life coach.


How can you benefit from having a life coach? This is what one of my client says: “There’s value in working with a trained coach rather than ‘just working it out for yourself'; for some of us extroverts, if you don’t tell someone else about it, it didn’t happen. Actually articulating your thoughts to another person makes them real and let’s you hear them.”

A life coach gives you the support, clarity and action to:

  • bring more success into your life
  • create a personal development plan
  • live your fullest life
  • get unstuck from old patterns and limitations
  • live a balanced and abundant life
  • explore your true life meaning
  • manifest a life of joy

I would like to be your personal life coach, your greatness coach, your success coach, your self-realization coach! I would like to help you tap into life’s abundance and learn about manifesting your life goals. If you need to build self-confidence, improve your relationships, work on self-actualization or even total transformation, I can support you. I can help you nurture your spiritual growth and find the daily inspiration that will keep you moving forward. My life coaching is all about helping you to be your true authentic self, helping you to discover what you value most, and helping you align with those values. Life coaching is about motivating you, encouraging you, acknowledging you, moving you through limitations and old patterns, and getting you into action.

Together we’ll explore your life’s passions and uncover any blocks you may have to achieving what you most want in your life. I see my job as your personal life coach as increasing your awareness of options and moving you to take meaningful and constructive action. You, as the client, set the agenda. You decide what you want to work on. I, as your life coach, help draw out the answers, your answers, not mine. I believe in your greatness and uniqueness and ability to know at some deep level what it is that will work best for you to achieve your life goals. My coaching is based on a process of inquiry, asking you questions which will open the space within you to discover what the answer is for you, what is true for you, what will work for you. I will help you clarify and set your intentions, and then I will help you stay focused on your intentions.

To find out if life coaching is right for you, sign up for a free life coaching session.