The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen. – Frank Lloyd Wright
Who among us does not want a fulfilled life, a life of ease and grace and abundance? How can we have such a life? What do we have to do? What has to happen to make such a life possible?
My own opinion is that we need to start with belief, or faith. Once we have faith, we realize there is nothing we need to be or do or have, other than allowing ourselves to grow. Once we believe that something is possible, everything else starts to fall into place. Once we have faith that we already are what we need to be, accept our circumstances, and take responsibility for ourselves, we begin to take action and grow into being our authentic and unlimited selves.
Become aware of what you believe, then choose whether you want to continue to believe it. Is the belief serving you? What belief would serve you better? Are your beliefs focusing on what you don’t want, or are they focusing on what you do want? For example, do you believe there is something about you that “is not good enough” because you constantly compare yourself to others? Try focusing on your strengths and your uniqueness, without comparing yourself to someone else. Perhaps you would like to lose weight–instead of focusing on the “problem” of too much weight, start visualizing yourself as your thin self–and start focusing on the solution. You cannot create what you want by focusing on what you do not want. As you begin to develop more constructive beliefs you will find that your life will become easier. You do not necessarily need to know the solution–when you begin to image and visualize what you want, you will begin to take action and the “how” or the solution will gradually unfold. It’s like driving a car on a windy road–you know your destination, but you may not be familiar with the road, and you respond to the curves in the road as necessary, without having to know ahead of time what each curve will bring. Believe in your ability to negotiate life’s curves the same way, one challenge at a time.
As you practice positive beliefs, you develop faith. Faith that things are OK, that you are OK, that life is OK, and as you practice more you begin to know that things are great, that you are great, that life is great. Move from belief to faith to knowing. Grow into the state or habit of mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing and you will grow into faith, then let the faith become knowing. It does not matter what person or thing you have faith in, or what you call it–self, higher power, God, etc.–it’s really all the same.
Expose yourself to, and align yourself with, ideas and people with strong positive beliefs. Read, listen, and discuss. You’ll be amazed at how you will grow! Consider using a personal life coach to help you focus, clarify and align yourself to your values and to take appropriate action to move your life forward.
To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe. – Anatole France
Susan Wood is a Certified Life Coach working and living in Morro Bay, California. She usually coaches by telephone and serves clients across the country. She will happily provide a free session for anyone wanting to explore what coaching with her is about. You can find out more at http://www.susanwoodlifecoach.com or by calling Susan at 805-771-9706.